Well , if so stringent selection so the staff in an organization , especially when receiving the " application of love " a man or woman . We should test it carefully .
No tools are now starting premarital tests , both to test the personality and mental health . It would be nice before continuing relationship to a more serious , everyone needs to examine ( love ) candidate.
test of love
Here's an interesting story about how the love of a princess tested three princes who proposed to her .
Once, a famous wise and mighty king visited by three kings neighbors . Each of these kings shall offer their son to marry the king 's daughter . Of the King is not easy to decide . Finally , he called the daughter and asked him decide what's best for him . Thanks to the guidance counselor kings , the king's daughter makes the contest is simple , but the impact is huge .
The daughter of the king asks each prince had entered into a large room painted pure white . They were asked to facing the side wall . Daughter of the king of the hard filed a request is received that , " If the prince really love me , please run fast and tabrakkan himself into the wall in front of the prince there . "
The first prince immediately surrendered . Imagine he will be bumps and concussions , he retreated regularly .
The second prince bolder . He immediately square off and sprinting . However , ahead of the two feet of the wall he stopped . He chose to resign from the contest . She was the daughter of the king of weird .
Differences with the third prince . Since the beginning he knew well that the king was famous sage , the king's daughter named fragrant as virtuous daughter . He thought , " Surely this is just a trap , it is unlikely he will destroy us . That could make the war .... "
He immediately took a running start and sprinted to hit the barrier . His body give way to the next room . It turns out that the wall is composed of a thick cardboard -like brick walls .
The princess finally deign to receive the third prince of love because love has been tested .
False love ?
Although most people say marry for love , but there are a few reasons actually stronger encourage people to marry . The reason basically is not love . Here are some examples :
People ( forced ) marriage as existing overdo intercourse or pregnancy . Partly because of social status and parental pressure . Because of fear of what other people say when they are not so much a marriage as long courtship ? Though her boyfriend has a tendency to rough and likes to hit , he still forced himself married .
Some are married because of economic motives , hopes prospective partner can guarantee their future . Although he knew he was more fit to be a father or mother , he still insists on getting married . Partly because parents arranged marriage .
Others are " in love " because so often met , yes finally love as well . Even more serious , because it hopes to marry her partner could be a surrogate father or mother . If the reasons above into your motif ( will ) get married , should be postponed .
Get familiar with
Friends , love is not blind . Everyone wants to get married should recognize , observe , and understand the true person you will marry for life . Observe the nature , character , physical , health , intellectual , hobbies , family background , and so on . Make sure that the difference is more than the equivalence . Make sure you sure can fit or right with your potential partner .
Just like the princess in the story , very well you test the personal qualities and love your spouse . Not quite perform medical tests . Test your partner 's personality and the quality of your relationship during dating .
How, to meet and listen to the opinions of a marriage counselor . Very good if you both take the test before premarital , tools that make you more familiar with each other objectively . Despite having to spend money and time is not small , the test results will be the provision to you guys know each other before deciding to get married or not .. If not , you just get a " fake love " . Imagine , the candidate applying for the staff who work alone now tested all sorts. Not only tests the skill , but also to psychological health test .
Well , if so stringent selection so the staff in an organization , especially when receiving the " application of love " a man or woman . We should test it carefully .
No tools are now starting premarital tests , both to test the personality and mental health . It would be nice before continuing relationship to a more serious , everyone needs to examine ( love ) candidate.
test of love
Here's an interesting story about how the love of a princess tested three princes who proposed to her .
Once, a famous wise and mighty king visited by three kings neighbors . Each of these kings shall offer their son to marry the king 's daughter . Of the King is not easy to decide . Finally , he called the daughter and asked him decide what's best for him . Thanks to the guidance counselor kings , the king's daughter makes the contest is simple , but the impact is huge .
The daughter of the king asks each prince had entered into a large room painted pure white . They were asked to facing the side wall . Daughter of the king of the hard filed a request is received that , " If the prince really love me , please run fast and tabrakkan himself into the wall in front of the prince there . "
The first prince immediately surrendered . Imagine he will be bumps and concussions , he retreated regularly .
The second prince bolder . He immediately square off and sprinting . However , ahead of the two feet of the wall he stopped . He chose to resign from the contest . She was the daughter of the king of weird .
Differences with the third prince . Since the beginning he knew well that the king was famous sage , the king's daughter named fragrant as virtuous daughter . He thought , " Surely this is just a trap , it is unlikely he will destroy us . That could make the war .... "
He immediately took a running start and sprinted to hit the barrier . His body give way to the next room . It turns out that the wall is composed of a thick cardboard -like brick walls .
The princess finally deign to receive the third prince of love because love has been tested .
False love ?
Although most people say marry for love , but there are a few reasons actually stronger encourage people to marry . The reason basically is not love . Here are some examples :
People ( forced ) marriage as existing overdo intercourse or pregnancy . Partly because of social status and parental pressure . Because of fear of what other people say when they are not so much a marriage as long courtship ? Though her boyfriend has a tendency to rough and likes to hit , he still forced himself married .
Some are married because of economic motives , hopes prospective partner can guarantee their future . Although he knew he was more fit to be a father or mother , he still insists on getting married . Partly because parents arranged marriage .
Others are " in love " because so often met , yes finally love as well . Even more serious , because it hopes to marry her partner could be a surrogate father or mother . If the reasons above into your motif ( will ) get married , should be postponed .
Get familiar with
Friends , love is not blind . Everyone wants to get married should recognize , observe , and understand the true person you will marry for life . Observe the nature , character , physical , health , intellectual , hobbies , family background , and so on . Make sure that the difference is more than the equivalence . Make sure you sure can fit or right with your potential partner .
Just like the princess in the story , very well you test the personal qualities and love your spouse . Not quite perform medical tests . Test your partner 's personality and the quality of your relationship during dating .
How, to meet and listen to the opinions of a marriage counselor . Very good if you both take the test before premarital , tools that make you more familiar with each other objectively . Despite having to spend money and time is not small , the test results will be the provision to you guys know each other before deciding to get married or not .
Tool " test " simple
If not allowed to take the test and meet premarital counselor , below is a list of simple questions that can help .
This is certainly not a tool of psychological tests , but only a tool for you to evaluate your relationship with the candidate . The author hopes you really marry someone you already know quite well before marriage . Remember : this is just brainstorming , please use where necessary . Comprehensive nature , used during the courtship period ( two years ) and not in one night . Use gradually needed .
Start by circling the numbers below.
Number 0 represents the low quality and high quality 9 represents
1 . Do you really love your partner ? 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
2 . How honest your boyfriend ? 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
3 . Bertanggungjawabkah him ? 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
4 . Is he loyal ? 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
5 . Does he respect his parents ? 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
6 . Is he good in the mix ? 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
7 . Do you like the temperament or nature ? 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
8 . Do you feel free to communicate , especially about your feelings with your boyfriend ? 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
Try to discuss honestly and openly . Evaluation in earnest was the extent to which the course of your relationship . Usually you meet regularly , sometimes once a week , or once a month there .
Well , talk about and discuss these things below. Is quite sensitive , but it is very important to be discussed openly and rationally . You can add or expand it .
1 . What is the reason you loved me and chose my own husband / wife?
2 . Do you feel us more fit or the difference this time?
3 . What do you expect from me if it is a husband / wife later ?
4 . Do you think the conflict we are still healthy or not ? Is this relationship to continue or not for the common good ?
The nature of your parents and boyfriend ** )
In addition , both also inventoried the couple 's personality . Understanding personality can usually be seen from most of the properties of each parent . Take time to share some of the salient properties of ( plus or minus ) of the father and mother .
Could begin by circling the answer below and then discuss it openly and warmly . Do not forget , some properties stuck to our parents . Do not forget to explore the background , situation , and so on . Among these are ( you can add ) :
1 . irritability
2 . Dominant and can lead
3 . be responsible
4 . fair
5 . morose
6 . like nervous
7 . selfish
8 . humorous
9 . stubborn
10 . easy hanging
11 . irritable
12 . forgiving
13 . love gossip
14 . Believes himself good
15 . spiteful
16 . appreciate the
17 . actively organize
18 . like to help
19 . can be criticized
20 . Fond mama / papa
21 . Dear children
Next , with the same guidelines above , personally discuss your opinion about the nature of girlfriend , alternately . Give opinions and your expectations . Maybe there could be repaired before entering marriage . At least this discussion to talk about for a year , one or two topics in one month .
Possibly the worst
Some people usually do not set up the worst of a marriage . In fact , there are many possible bad happened . Although we did not expect , but we should prepare . There are some conditions you need to prepare through some of the questions below. It is very personal and not easily discussed with your candidates . But , yes try it . It is very well discussed before marriage .
1 . What do you do if one day after we got married , I was an accident or severe pain and could not give a biological necessity ?
2 . What is your attitude after being married for so long if it turns out we did not have children ?
3 . What do you think if one day I got laid off and have not been an adequate job ?
4 . My mama had a long illness , she lived alone . What if mom finally asked to stay with us ?
5 . What would you do if it turns out after all this time we got married there was a " third person " among us ?
This paper is a discussion or brainstorming tool to better know each other early . Highly recommended to see a marriage counselor or psychologist for a psychological test that can give you both . Thus , the results are more ritually pure and better marriage preparation . Premarital counseling is recommended at least 4-6 months . Longer preparation , hopefully better results.
May be useful .
